Should I use toys or not?
Do I need a toy for Mindgasm?
Can I still use a toy anyways?
Can I use my...
No, it requires movement and the shape is unsuited.
Maybe, butt it has a sub-optimal shape and likely won’t hit the relevant spot. Muscle movements won’t translate well.
Don’t. It’s too risky. You need flared bases, proper structure. Don’t mess around with your body! Those funny stories from the emergency room are only funny if you are not the patient.
Yes, but be aware that those might not be bodysafe. User report of metal toy, causing burning sensations? Risky business. worth it, to save a few bucks? Just be careful and do your research!
So what toys do you recommend?
My toy doesn't do anything, maybe it's to short/long/thin etc..
First of all: Don’t expect instant fireworks and pleasure.
Even if you feel little in the beginning, It likely does hit the spot. But your brain does not yet interpret these new incoming signals als pleasure. It first has to learn, build and strengthen the pathways. The Mindgasm exercises will guide you there. Just do them with the toy inserted. Give it time, it can take a few weeks.
Don’t let the small size of aneros toys fool you. They are shaped exactly as needed. Studies show that the variation of the position of the sweetspot/prostate in most males is in milimeter range!
So whatever people say, it’s unlikely that yours is deviating several centimeters/inches! Maybe through fat a bit 😉
Seriously, it is not hitting my spot!
Before you waste more money into toys, modify what you can.
You can fold a sock and put it under the front tab, to make it slightly shorter.
You can try to sit on it, to make it reach deeper.
Conclusion - Should I use toys or not?
Toys are tools for learning. They can help you, but don’t rely on them. Your brain will have to figure things out.
If you use a toy, please make sure to try it without every now and then! You’ll be surprised that you can still ride that bike, even without the training wheels, and that it feels just as good.