Harnessing the power of patience and focus

Hello my friend,

Today, I want to draw your attention to some crucial aspects of the Mindgasm journey:

patience
the importance of steady progress
the power of focused attention.

As you first plunge into the Mindgasm adventure, you likely brim with excitement and high expectations. Who wouldn’t want immediate spectacular results? And for some humans, this may even be the case. However, more realistically, most of you have a journey ahead that requires time, patience, and practice to fully unfold their Mindgasm experiences.

Think of learning a musical instrument, a new language, or a demanding sport. Your initial enthusiasm is tremendous, and your ambition to make rapid progress could not be greater. But soon it becomes clear: true mastery requires time, patience, and most importantly, regular practice.

Just like learning these new skills, the Mindgasm practice is a process in which you should acquire new habits. In our case, it is the habit of continuous practice and maintaining clear focus throughout the period of practice.

Sometimes on your Mindgasm journey, it may seem as though you are stalling or making only minor progress. Nevertheless, it is essential to remind yourself that every small step takes you forward. The heart of Mindgasm practice is not solely the pursuit of a goal, but rather the conscious experience and enjoyment of the present moment during your exercises.

The ability to concentrate over extended periods can be a real challenge nowadays, where you are inundated with quick dopamine hits through the use of social media. But it is precisely this perseverance in concentration that is an essential key to refining your focusing abilities and delving even deeper into the Mindgasm experiences.

Book recommendations

In this context, I would like to recommend two books to you, which can help you unlock your full Mindgasm potential by building habits and sharpening your focus when learning the techniques. The principles described apply not only to Mindgasm but also to the learning of other skills.

“Atomic Habits” by James Clear
The first book, “Atomic Habits” by James Clear, conveys the concept of steady and continuous improvement in establishing new habits. Clear emphasizes that it’s not always about big, dramatic changes. Instead, small but consistent improvements – just 1% per day – can lead to amazing results.

This is particularly relevant to our Mindgasm practice. It’s about dedicating ourselves to practice regularly, intending to get a little bit better each time to ultimately master our Mindgasm abilities.

“Hyperfokus” by Chris Bailey
“Hyperfocus“ addresses the importance of focus in our increasingly distracting world. Bailey argues that the ability to concentrate on one thing allows us to be more productive, think more clearly, and ultimately do better work. Even though the book primarily targets the workday and professional environment, the principles of focus can be easily transferred to the acquisition of new skills, which are a form of “work” in their own right.

This (hyper)focus is also crucial in our Mindgasm practice. When we learn how to fully focus on our regular exercises, we can thereby learn the techniques more effectively and consequently perceive the sensations more consciously and intensely, leading to a deeper and more fulfilling Mindgasm experience.

5 key messages from “Atomic Habits”

1. The power of small habits:
One of the central theses of the book is that small, everyday habits can have significant impacts on our lives over time. A small positive change today may seem insignificant, but if consistently carried out, it can bring substantial benefits over time.
By doing just a few focussed flexes everyday, you keep the re-wiring process going, and over time you’ll get there, even if it doesn’t feel like it on a day to day base.

2. Systems instead of goals:
James Clear emphasizes the importance of creating effective systems rather than just focusing on goals. Goals set the focus on what you want to achieve, but systems are the processes that get you there. You will be more successful if you direct your energy towards improving your systems.
Improving a consistent routine and mindfulness practice will yield much greater results than simply aiming for “the big O”

3. The four laws of behavioral change:
“Atomic Habits” introduces four laws that can help to build or break a habit: Make it obvious, make it attractive, make it easy, and make it satisfying. These laws serve as a guide for designing and implementing new habits. The author emphasizes that changing habits is not always a linear process. There are often advances and setbacks. The important thing is to stay the course and not let occasional failures discourage you.

4. Identity-Based Habits:
Another crucial point in Clear’s book is the shift from outcome-based to identity-based habits. Instead of concentrating on what one wants to achieve (for example the Super-O), it’s better to focus on who you wants to be (e.g. a multiorgasmic person, in control of your own urges, deeply in touch with your own pleasure). This approach can help develop stronger motivation and consistency in forming new habits.

5. The Role of Environment:
The book also emphasizes the importance of shaping our physical and social environments to facilitate the formation of good habits and to make breaking bad habits easier. The environment in which we move has a powerful influence on our behavior, and small changes can make a big difference. So make your sessions into rituals, prepare your space, add a nice smell with incense, light a candle.. these changes can act as triggers in the future, so you don’t have to start from scratch every time.

5 key messages from „Hyperfocus“

1. Control of Attention and Hyperfocus:

The Author emphasizes the importance of consciously directing your attention. Given the multitude of distractions, it takes discipline and practice to concentrate on a task. This ability is maximized in the state of “hyperfocus,” where one is completely absorbed in a task and forgets the environment. This state fosters productivity and allows you to produce high-quality work in less time.
In Mindgasm practice, focusing your attention on the present sensations and pleasure will naturally increase your enjoyment and connection with your body, allowing you to truly experience every sensation as it is.

2. The Power of the Present Moment and Importance of Priorities:

“Hyperfocus” highlights that living in the present moment is often more productive and satisfying than constantly worrying about the past or future. This is closely tied to the prioritization of tasks. By directing your attention to the most important, priority tasks and being in the here and now, you can use our time and energy more efficiently and improve the quality of your work and life.

3. The Role of Technology:

The book discusses how technology influences our attention and creates distractions that can hinder your productivity. It offers strategies to minimize these distractions, including turning off notifications, creating a “distraction-free zone,” and setting boundaries for technology use to support, not disturb, the work.
Of course the Mindgasm app doesn’t count 😉 it’s hyperfocus technology for your pleasure!

4. The Importance of Self-Awareness:

Another central point is self-awareness and reflecting on our behaviors. By understanding how we spend our time and direct our attention, we can better recognize our habits and distractions. This awareness allows us to develop more effective strategies for boosting our productivity and controlling our attention better.
In Mindgasm practice, understanding your unique preferences and triggers can help you refine your techniques and personalize your approach for greater satisfaction. Tips from others can be great, but you need to find your individual path, be aware and listen to your bodies unique reactions.

5. The Importance of Breaks and Scatterfocus:

The book also emphasizes the crucial role of scheduled breaks and scatterfocus—a state where we let our mind wander—for creativity and problem-solving. He contends that these breaks not only serve to recover from intense phases of concentration but also to foster new insights and ideas. By incorporating regular scatterfocus times, for instance, while walking or doing other non-mentally strenuous tasks, we can “relax” our brain, leverage our natural attention fluctuations, and at the same time, prepare ourselves for the next intensive work phase. Similarly, incorporating breaks within Mindgasm sessions or between sessions ensures that you maintain a balance between mindful pleasure indulgence and avoiding overstimulation or exhaustion, ultimately leading to continued growth in your journey.

Of course, a brief blog post can only partially reflect the wealth of wisdom and ideas in these two books. But I hope you can recognize their significance and parallels to Mindgasm and other areas of life, and the possibilities they can provide for targeted advancement on your Mindgasm journey. Ideally, this blog will inspire you to read these books or listen to them as audiobooks. Both are absolutely worth it.

Always remember that with Mindgasm, and in everything you do, it’s not just about the goal, but also about the journey to it. It’s about enjoying the process, learning from the challenges, and savoring every moment to the fullest. Stay patient, stay focused, and be open to what comes. You’re on an exciting path, and I’m curious to see where it leads you.

LOVE,
Allie.